Baby Steps

Baby steps… We refer to them as if they are simple or small.

“Just take baby steps toward that goal or that dream you have.”

“You want to lose 10 pounds? Drink more water and eat a carrot instead of that soda & cookie. Baby steps!”


There is nothing small or simple about it. When an infant is learning to walk, those seemingly small steps are a big deal!

Children develop in an orderly manner, meaning that most of us reach certain milestones before reaching others. Like crawling before you walk, and walking before you run. It’s important to keep in mind that the rate at which children reach these milestones can differ greatly, depending on the individual child.

And so it is with our journeys through this life. We mature physically in much the same way that we do emotionally, at our own pace:

  • The center of the body develops before the outer regions. – Muscles at the core of the body become stronger and develop sooner than those in the feet and hands. Our core is what grounds us and keeps us in balance. It’s at the heart of who we are.
  • Development occurs from the top down, from the head to the toes. This is why babies learn to hold their heads up before they learn how to crawl. Your head needs to be level and straight before your feet start walking. Your brain sends the messages to your feet and legs in much the same way your spirit leads you on a different level. 

And just like those adorable little ones learning to walk, we rarely ever realize just how far we’ve come until we look back at where we started.

No, baby steps are not simple or small. They are brave and courageous. They are worthy of recognition. Yes, you will fall. On many occasions. And yes, it will hurt. No, you may not want to try again. But remember that there is a parent by our sides at all times.

Our encouraging Father is holding out his hands and coaxing us along through this life. He’s there to catch us if we fall. He knows what comes next, even though we don’t.

What are you waiting for before you make a change? How can you keep moving forward anyway?

I am always waiting on something… the right time, more money, true love’s kiss under a half-moon when the stars are aligned. In other words, I set up a scenario that will never happen. And thus, nothing changes. One small step I can take toward my God-Sized Dream is hosting an in(RL) meetup in April and email my friends an invitation. You see, this blogging experience has been my thing that I don’t always share with those I love, something that belongs to me. And it’s on the world-wide web? Yes, I do get the irony of it all. 

Would you like to find belonging and community in your life. (in)RL is a great place to start!

I’m part of Holley Gerth‘s God-sized Dreams Team and we’re following her new book, Do What You Can Plan: 21 Days to Making Any Area of Your Life Better“. This post is inspired by “Step #5: Stop Waiting for the Perfect Time”.

My fellow member of the God-sized Dream Team and I are linking up our posts every Tuesday at Holley’s site. Come on over!

Want a copy of the “Do What You Can Plan…“? Jump over to Amazon and pick up your copy today for $1.99!


I Found My Table


Community and friendships among women are wonderful… except when they’re not.

At a very young age we learn that girl-on-girl cruelty is harsh reality. Thus the popularity of the term “mean girls”.

Very recently, I experienced the grown-up version of female fall-out. It wasn’t pretty at all. In fact, it was downright devastating. And, not to sound cliché, but with friends like that who needs enemies? I quickly exited stage right and have not looked back…. at least, that’s the story I want to tell.

Truth be known, I’ve looked back a lot. Replayed the words in my head over and over. Acted it out and told the story out loud for that invisible person that tags along with me everywhere I go. “She said…. Can you believe that? And I said….” You know you’ve done it, too!

That is going to be the last time this happens to me. I’ve added a few more bricks to that wall around my heart. I won’t be letting anyone else in anytime soon, that’s for sure…. at least, that’s what I tell myself.

And then there are these women that make me rethink that stance. Women from all across the world. Women that are so different. Women that I’ve never even met.

It started with a simple interest to connect with other women bloggers. {Because, let’s face it, the blogosphere is only really known to those who are in it.}

By putting myself out there (which I said I wasn’t going to do), I found so much more than a superficial exchange of ideas.

God is holding my hand and walking me through community once again. He is taking what caused me such pain and using it to heal and strengthen me. These women that I’ve never met – Olivia, Chelle, Sarah, Holley, Kristin, Casey, Crystal, Lisa-Jo and Stacey – have shown me that there can be relationships among women without fear of judgement or insecurity. No competition. No ego. No judgemental whispers.

I have found my table. Because, really, this world is just one big middle school cafeteria. And we are all searching for our seat among our people. Wanting to fit in, wanting to belong, wanting acceptance and grace and love. At the end of the day, we are all just looking for our spot.


And because of these women I’ve never met  (but chat with every day), I am looking at my real life friendships differently. I definitely have regret and remorse for friendships lost. My wounds haven’t healed completely, and that’s okay. I am learning with each passing day to be the kind of friend that I would want in my life. That imperfect progress is enough for me.